javax.net.ssl.SSLHandshakeException: The server selected protocol version TLS10 is not accepted by client preferences [TLS13, TLS12]

you need to do the following:

1: create a new file (any where) with the name custom.java.security

2: put the following content in the file

jdk.tls.disabledAlgorithms=SSLv3, TLSv1.1, RC4, DES, MD5withRSA, \
    DH keySize < 1024, EC keySize < 224, 3DES_EDE_CBC, anon, NULL, \
    include jdk.disabled.namedCurves

3 : open DataGrip -> in your database panel -> select the database you want -> right click -> select Properties -> go to the Advanced tab

4 : in the VM Options field write the following

-Djava.security.properties=${PATH_TO_FILE}/custom.java.security

you need to replace ${PATH_TO_FILE} with the folder path of the file that you created in step 1

don't forget to have \\ instead of one \ in path if you use windows

5 : goto File menu -> select Invalidate Caches... -> click Invalidate And Restart

Credit : https://youtrack.jetbrains.com/issue/DBE-13313

if you are trying to connect Microsoft Sql server the use the drive

Microsoft SQL Server (jTds)

note : Click on the driver option

The other suggestions did not work for my IntelliJ.

What did the trick for me (while connecting to a MySQL Aurora db) was picking/downloading the "MySQL for 5.1" drivers instead of the default MySQL drivers that IntelliJ selected for me.

No need to create a file as the accepted answer.

When the error prompts, just open "Data Sources and Drivers":

The original text in "VM options":

"-Djdk.tls.disabledAlgorithms=SSLv3, TLSv1, TLSv1.1, RC4, DES, MD5withRSA, DH keySize < 1024, EC keySize < 224, 3DES_EDE_CBC, anon, NULL, include jdk.disabled.namedCurves"

So just remove TLSv1, TLSv1.1 then apply and reconnect, it will work.

Try adding TLSv1.1,TLSv1.2,TLSv1.3 to the enabledTLSProtocols setting in the Advanced tab like this: DataGrip Project Preferences

Updating the TLS Protocol on server side should be preferred though.

Find the java.security file on your computer and edit it with any text editor, for example Notepad ++

Find the text jdk.tls.disabledAlgorithms, remove the TLS 1.1 and TLS 1.2 protocols and save the file with the changes