Message sending is a useful abstraction, but it seems to be a bit misleading because it is not like letters sent through a post box that are literally moving through the system.
Similarly in Kafka they talk about messages but really it's just reading/writing to a distributed, append-only log.
In Erlang/Akka you actually copy the data rather than 'send it' so how does this work? I was imagining something like Alice sends a message to Bob by
- acquiring a lock to Alice's queue (i.e. mailbox)
- write the message to the queue
- release the lock
- do something else Given that you can send a message to anyone how does this not result in a massive deadlock with processes all waiting to message Alice. It seems like it might be useful to have multiple intermediate mailboxes for popular actors so you can write to that and then go do something else faster.