I must not understand something trivial about email but what does the host in defaul_url_options do? The need for the smtp settings make sense to me to configure how the email will be sent out but how is default_url_options relevant to that?
config.action_mailer.raise_delivery_errors = true
config.action_mailer.delivery_method = :smtp
host = '<your heroku app>.herokuapp.com'
config.action_mailer.default_url_options = { host: host }
ActionMailer::Base.smtp_settings = {
:address => 'smtp.sendgrid.net',
:port => '587',
:authentication => :plain,
:user_name => ENV['SENDGRID_USERNAME'],
:password => ENV['SENDGRID_PASSWORD'],
:domain => 'heroku.com',
:enable_starttls_auto => true
}