What the other answers say about it being impossible to accurately predict the performance of code running on a modern CPU is true, but that doesn't mean the latencies are unknown, or that knowing them is useless.
The exact latencies for Intels and AMD's processors are listed in Agner Fog's instruction tables. See also Intel® 64 and IA-32 Architectures Optimization Reference Manual, and Instruction latencies and throughput for AMD and Intel x86 processors (from Can Berk Güder's now-deleted link-only answer). AMD also has pdf manuals on their own website with their official values.
For (micro-)optimizing tight loops, knowing the latencies for each instruction can help a lot in manually trying to schedule your code. The programmer can make a lot of optimizations that the compiler can't (because the compiler can't guarantee it won't change the meaning of the program).
Of course, this still requires you to know a lot of other details about the CPU, such as how deeply pipelined it is, how many instructions it can issue per cycle, number of execution units and so on. And of course, these numbers vary for different CPU's. But you can often come up with a reasonable average that more or less works for all CPU's.
It's worth noting though, that it is a lot of work to optimize even a few lines of code at this level. And it is easy to make something that turns out to be a pessimization. Modern CPUs are hugely complicated, and they try extremely hard to get good performance out of bad code. But there are also cases they're unable to handle efficiently, or where you think you're clever and making efficient code, and it turns out to slow the CPU down.
Edit
Looking in Intel's optimization manual, table C-13:
The first column is instruction type, then there is a number of columns for latency for each CPUID. The CPUID indicates which processor family the numbers apply to, and are explained elsewhere in the document. The latency specifies how many cycles it takes before the result of the instruction is available, so this is the number you're looking for.
The throughput columns show how many of this type of instructions can be executed per cycle.
Looking up xchg in this table, we see that depending on the CPU family, it takes 1-3 cycles, and a mov takes 0.5-1. These are for the register-to-register forms of the instructions, not for a lock xchg with memory, which is a lot slower. And more importantly, hugely-variable latency and impact on surrounding code (much slower when there's contention with another core), so looking only at the best-case is a mistake. (I haven't looked up what each CPUID means, but I assume the .5 are for Pentium 4, which ran some components of the chip at double speed, allowing it to do things in half cycles)
I don't really see what you plan to use this information for, however, but if you know the exact CPU family the code is running on, then adding up the latency tells you the minimum number of cycles required to execute this sequence of instructions.